I wrote down my bucket list a month ago, then this month I reread it.
Here’s the list of things I want to do before I die, followed by my own reflections regarding the list and my internal war with some of it’s elements…
My bucket list:
- Build a strong family with Lia and our daughters, maintain loving, healthy, respectful relationships with each other as we all grow and change.
- Become a grandparent – hopefully many times over!
- Get barrelled.
- Clear $200,000 in gross annual income.
- Become financially independent.
- Break the 5 minute mark on a breath hold.
- Dunk a basketball.
- Do stand up comedy.
- Build/buy our dream house / land on water.
- Teach my daughters to surf, free dive, spear fish, jiu jitsu, muay thai, soccer, volleyball, hockey, ultimate, golf, skateboarding, carpentry, code, knife throwing, climbing, canoeing, investing, business, mindfulness, goal setting/completion, music, art…
- Leave the world a little better than it was when I arrived.
In reviewing my bucket list, I’ve realized that I’ve been holding back on going for the big goals. The most pronounced one is dunking a basketball. I initially didn’t put it on the is the list, then had to incrementally increase the goal from tennis ball to volleyball, and only now am I accepting the reality that I will one day dunk a basketball. IF I train!!
This acceptance is big. Overcoming my internal resistance to one of my biggest dreams represents a significant change in my forward progress. I’ve been static on that for a long time. Now I’m moving. Move on one formerly impossible big goal, and then move on the next.
I’ve been static on that for a long time. Now I’m moving. Move on one formerly impossible big goal, and then move on the next.
I’ve also been going through a restructuring of my time to forcefully prioritize time with my wife and daughters at the expense of time doing work for other people.
This has made me very happy. It has compounded the love I have for my girls, most potently with Isla. I have historically shut her out the most in order to work, and giving her my full attention has felt really good.
It is becoming clearer and clearer that earning Isla’s love is the most important thing to me, because I can see how it’s possible to miss out, even a bit, and not do as good a job as I could have, and fucking regret that.
Same goes for Lia and Lake. But right now Isla, at the stage she’s at, seems most urgent.
Following my bucket list goals to their ultimate conclusions, yes grossing $200K would feel amazing. As would attaining financial independence. But those without making an absolute success of my family would be damn near fucking meaningless.
Looking at it the other way around, I wouldn’t care much if I never grossed over $200K, it would be harder not to ever feel what financial independence feels like… but I’d be happy. I’d be SO happy. Like I am now.